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mynameismud Samba Member
Joined: October 23, 2002 Posts: 5922 Location: Middle of a corn field
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Posted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 6:22 pm Post subject: Cremation question |
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My wife and I have been trying to figure out what we should have done with our ashes once we are cremated. We have 2 boys- 10 and almost 17, and I for one, can't see them packing urns around for years or wanting to do something with them other then keep the urns in a closet.. . On the other hand, if we request that our ashes be spread somewhere, would there be a need for them to "visit" the place in which the ashes were spread? I personally feel that men/guys would not feel the guilt to visit a place (whether it be a grave-site or a designated "ash-spreading site" as a woman might feel. I for one, haven't a clue as to what should be done with my ashes, flush 'em? bury them and plant a tree?
For those who have had parents / relatives cremated at their request, have you felt the need / guilt to visit the place (if so requested) in which their ashes were spread? _________________ Even YOU can prevent FIRES!
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69 Jim Samba Member
Joined: September 27, 2004 Posts: 6265 Location: Chickengeorge's Neighbor
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Posted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 6:26 pm Post subject: |
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Richard Pryor wanted his ashes mixed with douchepowder so he could go in one more time. |
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EdW Samba Member
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Shoot 'em into space. If your kids come for a visit, you'll know they're swimming in gravy! _________________ 20‰
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Terry Cloyd Banned
Joined: March 23, 2004 Posts: 2218 Location: Valley Center "SO CAL"
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Posted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 6:32 pm Post subject: Re: Cremation question |
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mynameismud wrote: |
My wife and I have been trying to figure out what we should have done with our ashes once we are cremated. We have 2 boys- 10 and almost 17, and I for one, can't see them packing urns around for years or wanting to do something with them other then keep the urns in a closet.. . On the other hand, if we request that our ashes be spread somewhere, would there be a need for them to "visit" the place in which the ashes were spread? I personally feel that men/guys would not feel the guilt to visit a place (whether it be a grave-site or a designated "ash-spreading site" as a woman might feel. I for one, haven't a clue as to what should be done with my ashes, flush 'em? bury them and plant a tree?
For those who have had parents / relatives cremated at their request, have you felt the need / guilt to visit the place (if so requested) in which their ashes were spread? |
I would wait until your oldest boy is about 40 years old before you think about it |
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EdW Samba Member
Joined: January 13, 2005 Posts: 2385 Location: Unemployment Office
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Posted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 6:37 pm Post subject: Re: Cremation question |
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Terry Cloyd wrote: |
mynameismud wrote: |
My wife and I have been trying to figure out what we should have done with our ashes once we are cremated. We have 2 boys- 10 and almost 17, and I for one, can't see them packing urns around for years or wanting to do something with them other then keep the urns in a closet.. . On the other hand, if we request that our ashes be spread somewhere, would there be a need for them to "visit" the place in which the ashes were spread? I personally feel that men/guys would not feel the guilt to visit a place (whether it be a grave-site or a designated "ash-spreading site" as a woman might feel. I for one, haven't a clue as to what should be done with my ashes, flush 'em? bury them and plant a tree?
For those who have had parents / relatives cremated at their request, have you felt the need / guilt to visit the place (if so requested) in which their ashes were spread? |
I would wait until your oldest boy is about 40 years old before you think about it |
LOL, that's it! Don't plan ahead at all for another 23 years!! _________________ 20‰
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mynameismud Samba Member
Joined: October 23, 2002 Posts: 5922 Location: Middle of a corn field
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Posted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 6:52 pm Post subject: Re: Cremation question |
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Terry Cloyd wrote: |
I would wait until your oldest boy is about 40 years old before you think about it |
exactly...that answers the question and makes perfect sense, wait until something happens.. _________________ Even YOU can prevent FIRES!
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chickengeorge Samba Member
Joined: August 18, 2004 Posts: 5634 Location: Spokompton Warshington
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Posted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 6:59 pm Post subject: |
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I like visiting my dad's grave just cause it's a place where I like to think. I get nachos from Taco Time and go and sit. There's a small tree with a wind chime that I always end up untangling. It shouldn't be a matter of guilt any fucking way. They should WANT to visit the place. Unless, of course it's in the middle of nowhere. I usually visit my dad's grave on the way up to 69Jim's house, as it's only a couple miles away. I make it a "visit old dusty guys" trip. |
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gonebuggy Samba Member
Joined: June 23, 2005 Posts: 691 Location: Canada
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Posted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 7:13 pm Post subject: |
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With my grandparents on my mothers side, we never did anything with the ashes. Just left them to the crematorium.
Personally I think that graves and urns are a reminder that someone is dead. I prefer to look through old family albums to reminisce and remember them. For me that's way it's more focused on the good times when they were alive, not the fact they have ceased to be.
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splitboy Samba Member
Joined: January 02, 2003 Posts: 53 Location: Olympia, WA
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Posted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 7:39 pm Post subject: Cremation question |
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I'm with gonebuggy. My sis dragged our father's urn around for years and if his ashes had been scattered to the four winds, like he wanted, no matter where you went he'd be there.
And I second the old family pics cause my granny gave me the entire box going all the way back to the early days of photogtraphy. Had a relative named Saint Elmo something or other. nice to have names to go with the pics too.
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visibleink Samba Member
Joined: May 03, 2002 Posts: 1668 Location: Austin, Texas
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Posted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 8:17 pm Post subject: |
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http://www.lifegem.com/ _________________ Been on the samba so long I remember petting that dog to see VWs, WYHI, and green bug girl.
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iowegian Samba Curmudgeon
Joined: February 16, 2005 Posts: 9826 Location: Somewhere between Dubuque and Keokuk
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Posted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 8:21 pm Post subject: |
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I spread some of a dear friend's cremains at a favorite spot at his favorite road-racing circuit. His widow thought it was great. |
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69 Jim Samba Member
Joined: September 27, 2004 Posts: 6265 Location: Chickengeorge's Neighbor
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Posted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 8:27 pm Post subject: |
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chickengeorge wrote: |
I like visiting my dad's grave just cause it's a place where I like to think. I get nachos from Taco Time and go and sit. There's a small tree with a wind chime that I always end up untangling. It shouldn't be a matter of guilt any fucking way. They should WANT to visit the place. Unless, of course it's in the middle of nowhere. I usually visit my dad's grave on the way up to 69Jim's house, as it's only a couple miles away. I make it a "visit old dusty guys" trip. |
Ever been kicked in the pussy by an old guy? I can't believe how much smarter I am than you and yet I am only ten years older. |
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EdW Samba Member
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69 Jim wrote: |
Ever been kicked in the pussy by an old guy? |
Nope, can't say I have. Sorry about your luck. _________________ 20‰
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Terry Cloyd Banned
Joined: March 23, 2004 Posts: 2218 Location: Valley Center "SO CAL"
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Posted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 9:31 pm Post subject: Re: Cremation question |
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mynameismud wrote: |
Terry Cloyd wrote: |
I would wait until your oldest boy is about 40 years old before you think about it |
exactly...that answers the question and makes perfect sense, wait until something happens.. |
Well, if you have a plan about your life, then call God and tell him what your plan is. He needs a good laugh |
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calebmelvin Samba Member
Joined: July 19, 2006 Posts: 3140 Location: Seattle, WA
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Posted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 10:29 pm Post subject: Re: Cremation question |
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Terry Cloyd wrote: |
mynameismud wrote: |
Terry Cloyd wrote: |
I would wait until your oldest boy is about 40 years old before you think about it |
exactly...that answers the question and makes perfect sense, wait until something happens.. |
Well, if you have a plan about your life, then call God and tell him what your plan is. He needs a good laugh |
You have his number? I seem to have lost it _________________ Caleb
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Cheapo Samba Member
Joined: February 25, 2007 Posts: 255
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Posted: Wed Mar 04, 2009 3:11 am Post subject: Re: Cremation question |
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Terry Cloyd wrote: |
mynameismud wrote: |
My wife and I have been trying to figure out what we should have done with our ashes once we are cremated. We have 2 boys- 10 and almost 17, and I for one, can't see them packing urns around for years or wanting to do something with them other then keep the urns in a closet.. . On the other hand, if we request that our ashes be spread somewhere, would there be a need for them to "visit" the place in which the ashes were spread? I personally feel that men/guys would not feel the guilt to visit a place (whether it be a grave-site or a designated "ash-spreading site" as a woman might feel. I for one, haven't a clue as to what should be done with my ashes, flush 'em? bury them and plant a tree?
For those who have had parents / relatives cremated at their request, have you felt the need / guilt to visit the place (if so requested) in which their ashes were spread? |
I would wait until your oldest boy is about 40 years old before you think about it |
You work for FEMA, don't you? _________________ Happy Birthday, Lucky! |
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Tattooedbullies Samba Member
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Posted: Wed Mar 04, 2009 4:35 am Post subject: |
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I'd say that I don't feel the need to visit any grave site/ash site, whatever. I know that I carry a bit of those I care about with me in my heart. A person is not their ashes, body, or any of that jazz. JMO. My pop STILL had my mom mom in her bedroom closet, she died in 97. I think it would be better to just let go, grieve and let that crap out. I know when I die, I would appreciate my wishes being followed, but damn, if someone wants to spend time with me, they better do it now, when it counts:) |
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Mr. Loaf Samba Member
Joined: March 30, 2005 Posts: 2098 Location: Okra, Oklahoma
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Posted: Wed Mar 04, 2009 5:08 am Post subject: |
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Do you or your Wife and Kids have a favorite place that you enjoy going to or visiting? Keep that in mind. My Brother's ashes were placed in Monterey Bay in California because he always liked to hang out there. I have no idea where my Grandparents, various Aunt and Uncles, and a few Cousins are buried. If I did I do not think that I would visit their sites but I can go to Monterey Bay, breathe the ocean air, kick the sand around and know that my Brother is there. And me, my ashes are going back to Hawaii where I was born.................... _________________ Never drive faster than your Angel can fly
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