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vwracerdave
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 Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2018 12:19 pm Post subject: Spending Holidays alone |
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I don't want this to turn into a pitty party or mental health debate.
I am spending Thanksgiving all alone. My parents and grandparents have all passed. I have no relationship with my brothers. I have no relatives that I have communicated with in the last 40 years. I have no kids. I have never been married.
Just wondering if there are others that don't have anything to be thankful for on this day.
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*Darren
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2018 12:22 pm Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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| Dude, be thankful for the peace and quiet! |
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Letterman7
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2018 12:31 pm Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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| There's always something to be thankful for, even if your family has passed or you have no relationships. Surely you have friends? Go volunteer at a food bank - they can use the help. While I love my peace and quiet when I can get it, having people around is nice to have... even if you have to seek them out. Just don't sit there - do something! |
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calvinater
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2018 12:45 pm Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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My hero, holidays can be stress full , take a ride in your buggy and get some takeout , then go home and watch the movie of your choice.
Ps Happy Thanks "Giving"
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74 Thing
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2018 12:54 pm Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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Go work on the car or go for a hike and make yourself a nice meal and turn on the game and enjoy.
If you can volunteer and cook a meal or deliver a meal for the needy that is very fulfilling and people are very very thankful for your time and generosity, and it feels good to help others.
Shoot, go to an old folks home and visit there. Anytime I walk into one of those places there are people that just like to have visitors and someone to talk to. |
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cbeck
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2018 1:03 pm Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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Got a casino local? My mom would rather do that than come over here for a nice dinner. Her voicemail is full, probably of me threatening wellness checks. And then there is the wifes dysfunctional family functions ( her mom was married 3 times, widowed twice, kids with all 3 of them).
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Long-roofs
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2018 2:54 pm Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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I would drink some alcohol, loosen all the nuts and bolts on a bicycle. Go for a bike ride til I crashed and ended up at the hospital. The best way to meet a friendly nurse, you'll fall in love and maybe get a new bike one day.... 
Introverts have it tough, especially at the holidays.
I try not to put too much importance on a specific holiday, I am thankful everyday for some things. What people celebrate on a holiday I just laugh at. I love my better-half all year, not just on Feb. 14.
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photogdave
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Mike Fisher
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2018 4:05 pm Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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Salvation Army/Churches etc having free turkey dinners. Go have dinner with them & put $20 in their tip jar if you want, to help cover for the poor that can't donate.
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Pez
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2018 5:19 pm Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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Alone sucks but you have your health and you are not destitute so its not all bad? I get ya though, you can PM me and I will give ya my number if you just want to talk though.
Happy Thanksgiving!
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vwracerdave
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2018 5:24 pm Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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You guys that have never been single and alone just don't get it. I'm not only alone today I am alone always. Every single day is the same for me. Yes I could have gone to a dinner for the poor & homeless but I am not poor and not homeless and have no desire to spend the day with people that are. Yes I could have gone to the Casino and enjoyed a spectacular Turkey all you can eat buffet, but I have no interest in gambling. I have no interest in drinking either. My point is that everybody that has something damn sure needs to be thankful for it because without family you have nothing.
Fuck volunteering. It may make you feel good today but tomorrow the poor and homeless that you helped will be poor and homeless again tomorrow.
I did go cruising in the Dunebuggy today just to get out of the house.
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calvinater
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2018 5:57 pm Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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Well there you go fun times all around,
Did y get that take out and click on netflix? Animal house for play right now
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2018 5:58 pm Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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| Every person here was single some longer than others, some because of death or divorce. In my case I was single until 29 years old and by then I’d chased enough tail, drank enough etc. it ain’t hard to find women, by the numbers they are at a disadvantage you can pick and choose. I’ve known guys at work that got women from Philippines, South America and even Russia but it’s not my bag, plenty of em right here. I wore a T shirt several years ago to VW show, it spelled out I love pussy using an eye, a heart and a cat. About 50% of the girls liked it. Point is you gotta get out there and make yourself visible. Good luck. |
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bigdog1962
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2018 7:02 pm Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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| vwracerdave wrote: |
I don't want this to turn into a pitty party or mental health debate.
I am spending Thanksgiving all alone. My parents and grandparents have all passed. I have no relationship with my brothers. I have no relatives that I have communicated with in the last 40 years. I have no kids. I have never been married.
Just wondering if there are others that don't have anything to be thankful for on this day. |
I was understanding you until the last sentence. Tighten your belt, get out there and make something happen. For some, relationships come easy and not so easy for others. If you're in the latter half, maybe some advice would help. But regardless, your last statement is wrong - you do have something to be thankful for if it isn't more than you have electricity, a computer, etc. Go see those homeless, poor people and then you'll realize you have alot to be thankful for. (I think I fulfilled your request for it not to be a pity party.) 
One time, when I was whining to a psychologist friend of mine about the multiple eye surgeries I've had, he said "No body goes through this life unscathed." That really changed my perspective.
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Rodmullet
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2018 7:17 pm Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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Well, I am not completely alone, but my wife and I are down to each other and a couple of very casual friends.
You can't choose your family, there is no guarentee that you will like them...some people have great families and want to be around them, some don't.
I lost a good job back when everyone else was losing good jobs, and have never really recovered financially. We can pay the bills, but not much is left over for much else...and my job is not the greatest....
So, today, we actually discussed things we are thankful for.
We...
Have a roof over our heads that we can afford to live in.
Can pay our bills.
Ate today...and every day...nothing fancy, my wife doesn't eat meat, and I am not picky...but we are full.
I able to work, have a job, health insurance...
Have internet access and cable TV...a world of entertainment and education unimaginable 30 years ago, right at our fingertips.
Not that many miles from here there is a homeless camp on some town property. A local minister kind of oversees it and tries to help provide for these unfortunate people...they live in tents for the most part. It was 17 degrees last night...
As an introvert, I can't give you the best advice on meeting people, but they are everywhere...I assume you just have to make yourself available and be decent to them, maybe ask them about themselves, and be willing to give people a bit of a break if they don't live up to your expections.
Hang in there,
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TDCTDI
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2018 7:39 pm Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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Drive your VW, it’s the perfect ice breaker, there’s always someone that will want to talk to you about it & if they really dig it, offer to take them for a ride.
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vwracerdave
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2018 8:03 pm Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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| there’s always someone that will want to talk to you about it & if they really dig it, offer to take them for a ride. |
You would be surprised how many people are scared to ride in my Dunebuggy.
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Joe 20
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2018 8:23 pm Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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Sounds like we're your family. Be thankful for us!  |
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Dwayne1m
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2018 8:39 pm Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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| vwracerdave wrote: |
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| there’s always someone that will want to talk to you about it & if they really dig it, offer to take them for a ride. |
You would be surprised how many people are scared to ride in my Dunebuggy. |
Surprisingly I run into that with my Bugs. While many will like the car and comment on it being 'fun' or 'cute', I frequently hear, "it's to small" or "it's unsafe".
As far as being alone it will help to know your age to suggest appropriate places or ways to meet people. I know in my area cycling clubs are full of all ages and skill levels, male & female. There's a large motorcycle club nearby as well. ALL kinds of people in that crowd. Just show up with a Harley and you'll have hundreds of instant friends. Listing your hobbies would be useful too. Take a night course at a local school. I have wanted to take a night course on business for years but I can't fit it in. You have to expand your social circle. If you stay hidden at home nobody will see you. If you're into sports offer to coach a little league team for they are always looking for help. That way you'll meet fellow coaches, parents & single mothers, and dealing with kids is a blast. I wish I had the time to coach LL baseball. I bet kids would love to ride in your dune buggy. |
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