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hitest
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Deleted since my carefully considered post was retorted below as irrelevant...
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vwracerdave
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2018 10:43 pm Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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This isn't about me needing help or suggestions. I go places and hang out with people but no matter what the outcome it always ends up me being the kid that eats lunch alone in the cafeteria and nobody else wants to sit down with me.
I have no kids, I will never be a father or grandfather.
I will never be an uncle and have nephews and nieces.
I moved 1/2 way across the country when I was 6 years old and have totally lost all contact with any aunts, uncles, and cousins
I have never been married. I have tried and dated but nobody has found me that is interested in me.
I will die in this world alone.
What I want everybody to understand is never let that kid eat alone in the lunch room. Don't ever abandon your family. Run towards people that are different instead of running away.
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Zundfolge1432 
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2018 10:52 pm Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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The common thread here seems to be you shoot down every well meaning suggestion. The fact is if you keep this mindset you’ll continue to reap the same results.
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norcalmike
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| Posted: Fri Nov 23, 2018 12:38 am Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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| I like to spend mine at work. Pays better |
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56Cabrio
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| Posted: Fri Nov 23, 2018 1:25 am Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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| djkeev wrote: |
You are only alone if you choose to be alone. There are a LOT of people in this World!
People, not always relatives, are what completes life.
If you shun making friends, well you won't have any.
How do you make friends?
By doing things with people.
It could be a volunteer organization,
A Church,
A Fire Department,
A special interest club,
Even a bar.
Anywhere that people get together to do something will result in a relationship.
Of course if you act like a grumpy negative SOB, you won't make many if any friends though.
Dave |
X100 Dave is 100 % correct. There is someone for everyone, there is so many ppl in this world. Join a dating site I’m positive you’ll find someone to kick it with. Just be open to other people’s likes and dislikes. I read your post often you are one of the posters in the engine forum that seem to be very knowledgeable. Get out the house talk to people make friends. It’s really not that hard. I’m 47 and I’ll always start up a conversation with people when I’m out, especially older folks I like to hear what they have to say. I was at the grocery store the other day and an older man parked next to me with a 65 mustang I asked about his car and we stood in the parking lot for an hour shooting the shit. Just be open to others needs and you will be ok.
By the way my name is Dave too nice to meet you vwracerdave 
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modok
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| Posted: Fri Nov 23, 2018 2:20 am Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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| vwracerdave wrote: |
What I want everybody to understand is never let that kid eat alone in the lunch room. Don't ever abandon your family. Run towards people that are different instead of running away. |
Thank you for saying that. |
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vwracerdave
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| Posted: Fri Nov 23, 2018 3:44 am Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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I did the dating site thing many years ago and I will never go back to that sewer again. It is the biggest lying bullshit game I have ever been involved in. I'm not going to compete against 20 other men for a date with a lady. I'd rather stay single then sift through the trailer park trash. 250 lb. women that are financially desperate for anything they can get.
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| Posted: Fri Nov 23, 2018 4:47 am Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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Big girls need lovin’ too. 
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calvinater
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| Posted: Fri Nov 23, 2018 5:23 am Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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Who was it that sang "ugly women make beautiful lovers" ?
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| Posted: Fri Nov 23, 2018 5:55 am Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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This one?
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Dwayne1m
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| Posted: Fri Nov 23, 2018 6:26 am Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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| The absolute loneliest place was that damn rest home, dozens of old folks left alone in wheelchairs just waiting to die, God it was awful. |
Exactly. I was very close to my grandmother and to see this strong woman just wilt away in that place was horrible. I hated going there. The horror stories I hear about these nursing homes makes me cringe. For me that is by far the most depressing place on earth.
As far as the OP, I questioned myself what I would do if I were in his situation. I would do the night class thing and get schooled on something I'm interested in. Expand your horizons. I would also volunteer at a place like the SPCA or Animal Rescue League and work with animals. By doing that I wouldn't feel "alone" as I would be connecting with and helping animals, after all, who can refuse a waggy tail? Just maybe meet someone there with a common interest.
If someone is single that person also has to have an honest evaluation of themselves, like what do they have to offer in a relationship. For instance, one is not going to attract many women if all one wants to do is work on cars, watch football and drink beer, just like there are not many men standing in line for a woman who just wants to sit around eating cookies and watching TV.
one last bit of advice; be friendly and willing to talk with ALL women, not just the hotties. Just chatting with a woman that you're not attracted to will give you experience, social skills and confidence to converse with someone you are attracted to, and don't take rejection personally. She might be having a bad day or in a relationship already. |
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Well, I am not completely alone, but my wife and I are down to each other and a couple of very casual friends.
You can't choose your family, there is no guarentee that you will like them...some people have great families and want to be around them, some don't.
I lost a good job back when everyone else was losing good jobs, and have never really recovered financially. We can pay the bills, but not much is left over for much else...and my job is not the greatest....
So, today, we actually discussed things we are thankful for.
We...
Have a roof over our heads that we can afford to live in.
Can pay our bills.
Ate today...and every day...nothing fancy, my wife doesn't eat meat, and I am not picky...but we are full.
I able to work, have a job, health insurance...
Have internet access and cable TV...a world of entertainment and education unimaginable 30 years ago, right at our fingertips.
Not that many miles from here there is a homeless camp on some town property. A local minister kind of oversees it and tries to help provide for these unfortunate people...they live in tents for the most part. It was 17 degrees last night...
As an introvert, I can't give you the best advice on meeting people, but they are everywhere...I assume you just have to make yourself available and be decent to them, maybe ask them about themselves, and be willing to give people a bit of a break if they don't live up to your expections.
Hang in there,
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I'm in Toms River so it sounds as if you are close to me based on the tent camp description.
vwracerdave,
As for going to a casino and not gambling, my Wife and Mother in Law did just that yesterday. Unless you of course have a gambling issue, i see no problem with going to a casino and hitting up the buffet. We paid 40 bucks a head and there was more food than you can imagine and it was quality stuff not the crap you would find at a Golden Corral. Plus there were tons of babes at the casino(not that i was looking of course) 
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| Posted: Fri Nov 23, 2018 8:32 am Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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| vwracerdave wrote: |
What I want everybody to understand is never let that kid eat alone in the lunch room. Don't ever abandon your family. Run towards people that are different instead of running away. |
Practice what you preach.
http://www.fox46charlotte.com/news/strangers-at-mc...y-go-viral
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vwracerdave
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| Posted: Fri Nov 23, 2018 10:53 am Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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| The common thread here seems to be you shoot down every well meaning suggestion. The fact is if you keep this mindset you’ll continue to reap the same results. |
I have been listening to all these same well meaning suggestions for the last 30 years. The problem is I HAVE NO FAMILY. Thanksgiving is a special time to spend with family and be thankful for each other. None of these suggestions will ever help me get that. Sure I can hang out at the bowling alley and meet new friends but next year at Thanksgiving I will still be alone.
hitest you should have left your post. I read it. It was very powerful words that could have help others also
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calvinater
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| Posted: Fri Nov 23, 2018 11:23 am Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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Sounds to me like you need a new monkey and all will be well.
Maybe try some sort of marsupial.
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vwracerdave
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| Posted: Fri Nov 23, 2018 11:55 am Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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Before I retired, I was always the guy the volunteered to work holidays (some paid double time). I was always the guy that would trade weekends off so others could be at their kids sports tournament. I never schedualed leave during spring break to help those that did have kids.
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calvinater
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Sounds like you have done your share, maybe time for some "Me Time"
Take a trip to Europe, south America, Indonesia, whatever go have fun and phuck the rest of us,, you only get one shot at this.
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| Posted: Fri Nov 23, 2018 3:09 pm Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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Did you ever hear that saying you can pick your nose but you can't pick your family?
Well I am hear to tell you that is bunk. I am the shunned member of my biological family, not going to go into it but needless to say is i have no contact with them. But I have a friend that is a brother to me. I even introduce him as such. I met him when he was going through a really hard time in his life and he has been with me through a really hard time in mine.
No one gets through this life alone. Go pick your family. Their are a lot of foster children that would love for you to open your heart and home. There has to be a young individual just learning how to work on cars that would love to have you share your experience with them. Family isn't just who you were born into.
Don't be alone, I wish I lived next to you, I would annoy the crap out of you everyday. I had a grumpy old neighbor in Arizona who lived alone and every morning I would go over a have coffee and listen to him grump about stuff and annoy him and tease him until he would smile.
Dave i don't know you and have never met you but my advice to you or others that are walking their path alone, go find your family it won't be perfect but they never are.
Robert
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Zundfolge1432
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| Posted: Fri Nov 23, 2018 3:22 pm Post subject: Re: Spending Holidays alone |
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No it goes like this. You can pick your friends and you can pick your nose but you cannot pick your friends nose. credited to George Carlin but not 100% sure.
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