My Wife passed

[obus]

So last night one of the local McDonalds has Friday night car gatherings. While there an older gent named Rich came over to us and asked what year the Ghia was? He guessed 1964. i said close. its a 60. He said he bought a brand new ghia convertible in 1964. Anyway after talking to us a bit he said he doesnt get out much. Said he was 78 years old and lost his Wife of 58 years 9 months ago and that he was lonely and he started to tear up. I told him i was sorry and that i have an idea of what he is going through as my Wife passed less than 3 months ago. I too became sad. The guy i was hanging with then changed course and asked him other things to get him off the topic and that worked.
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July 1959 Mango Standard Bus aka Obus https://www.thesamba.com/vw/forum/viewtopic.php?t=256592&highlight=
June 1973 Pumpkin Orange Thing aka Othing
https://www.thesamba.com/vw/forum/viewtopic.php?t=711775&highlight=
1960 Paprika Red Karmann Ghia Convertible aka Schatze built 5/20/60
https://www.thesamba.com/vw/forum/viewtopic.php?t=...highlight=
March 1956 Beetle convertible https://www.thesamba.com/vw/forum/viewtopic.php?p=10419731&highlight=#10419731

[Heiferman]

Since my retirement I have been thinking a lot about our mortality. And with the changing landscape of angry nations and sultry politics, it does not make it any easier to imagine the next few decades.
I am concerned with which one of the two of us will go first and what that will do to the other. We have no kids. I am generally not a very happy person, have become a homebody and been chasing something to make me happy for a few years. But I don't want my wife to have to figure out what to do with all these cars, tools and other belongings we have collected these many years.
My folks down sized and shortly after my dad got sick and passed. My mom was always depressed as she lived another 10 years (to age 86) by herself mostly reading books. The kids would call regularly and go see her when we could but I am not sure if it was enough to lift her spirits after dad was gone.
Anyway, thanks for sharing your journey. And good on you for getting out and about. Keep it up.
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- 1973 Thing, 1970 Ghia, some LandCruisers and an old Ambulance

[obus]

[obus]

Today would have been my Wifes 52nd birthday.
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July 1959 Mango Standard Bus aka Obus https://www.thesamba.com/vw/forum/viewtopic.php?t=256592&highlight=
June 1973 Pumpkin Orange Thing aka Othing
https://www.thesamba.com/vw/forum/viewtopic.php?t=711775&highlight=
1960 Paprika Red Karmann Ghia Convertible aka Schatze built 5/20/60
https://www.thesamba.com/vw/forum/viewtopic.php?t=...highlight=
March 1956 Beetle convertible https://www.thesamba.com/vw/forum/viewtopic.php?p=10419731&highlight=#10419731

[Xevin]

[KTPhil]

These can be the hardest days. I cope by thinking of her, and reminding myself of all she gave me, and renew my promise to live my life as she taught me. It doesn't make it easier, but it gives me purpose for the day.
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Current Fleet:
- '71 Fastback
- '69 Westfalia
Retired:
- '67 Beetle
- '65 Beetle (x2)
- '65 Bus
- '71 Squareback

[OB Bus]

My brother-in-law was despondent after his wife, my sister, passed away. He was truly lost.
Nothing we could say or do for him or help him seem to make any difference in his overall attitude. He was truly waiting to die so we could be with his wife of almost 50 years. I finally said to him: “….you are here for a reason. God had a darn good purpose in you around. Can I help you find that purpose?”
He never did find the purpose. But he told me many times he was looking for it.
Shortly thereafter he was diagnosed with bone cancer. He was soon gone. And I hope he found his happiness and purpose.
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Larry in OB
Stop dead photo links! Post your photos to The Samba Gallery!
69 Westfalia and 2002 Eurovan Camper.
People deserve the Government they voted for.

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[Heiferman]

With the holidays coming it certainly can be a tough time.
Thinking of you Obus. Thanks for trusting us to share your thoughts.
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- 1973 Thing, 1970 Ghia, some LandCruisers and an old Ambulance

[Abscate]

I hope this soothes Obus. That day was, is, and will forever be her birthday. I like to celebrate my loved ones who are departed on their birthday, which is the beginning of their time, and don’t even note their passing day. When you have lived the good life , your time is endless in the lives you influenced.

Sorry to go a bit Zen with a trace of Kubler Ross

Thanks for sharing her life.
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[obus]

Im just trying to stay positive and get through frikken november. My BIL passed on 11/20/24, My Wife on 11/22/25, then her Bday on 11/24 and my Dad passed on 11/29/05. Get me out of November!

My Wife at Englishtown with my long ago sold 1965 21 window (current location unknown) and then at a show next to someones high roof
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July 1959 Mango Standard Bus aka Obus https://www.thesamba.com/vw/forum/viewtopic.php?t=256592&highlight=
June 1973 Pumpkin Orange Thing aka Othing
https://www.thesamba.com/vw/forum/viewtopic.php?t=711775&highlight=
1960 Paprika Red Karmann Ghia Convertible aka Schatze built 5/20/60
https://www.thesamba.com/vw/forum/viewtopic.php?t=...highlight=
March 1956 Beetle convertible https://www.thesamba.com/vw/forum/viewtopic.php?p=10419731&highlight=#10419731

[Xevin]

Fuckity, seems like you need to Punch-Out November with some classic “Body Blows” what a messed up month for you.

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Keep on Busin'

[KTPhil]

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