My Wife passed

[LAGrunthaner]

Obus, thank you for sharing this beautiful photo of you both. Your dear wife is at peace now, pain free and looking over you. Your love for her will continue to grow throughout your life. Please take care of yourself,.

[obus]

Thank you Linda and again thank you to everyone else on here. I truly appreciate the kind words
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July 1959 Mango Standard Bus aka Obus L346 L347 https://www.thesamba.com/vw/forum/viewtopic.php?t=256592&highlight=
June 1973 Pumpkin Orange Thing aka Othing L30H
https://www.thesamba.com/vw/forum/viewtopic.php?t=711775&highlight=
1960 Paprika Red Karmann Ghia Convertible aka Schatze L452 built 5/20/60
https://www.thesamba.com/vw/forum/viewtopic.php?t=...highlight=
March 1956 Beetle convertible L41 Black

[OB Bus]

My sincere condolences from OBBus to Obus. Your loss is enormous.
We have had a lot of death in our friends and family lately, and it does just suck.
May peace be like a river to you.
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[scottyrocks]

My sincerest condolences.
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[finster]

hang in there mate, you've come through the worst of it. I hope you have the support of close family and/or friends to help you grieve.
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[volksaddict]

So sorry man.
Blessings to the care takers out there, you are special people.
We have opened our home to my mother in law with dementia, it has opened my eyes to the end times of life, it's coming for us all...

[obus]

Well today is her memorial. Im not sure i can get through this in one piece. Her are a few pics of times when she was still able to go out with me and rare times we didnt break down!!!
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July 1959 Mango Standard Bus aka Obus L346 L347 https://www.thesamba.com/vw/forum/viewtopic.php?t=256592&highlight=
June 1973 Pumpkin Orange Thing aka Othing L30H
https://www.thesamba.com/vw/forum/viewtopic.php?t=711775&highlight=
1960 Paprika Red Karmann Ghia Convertible aka Schatze L452 built 5/20/60
https://www.thesamba.com/vw/forum/viewtopic.php?t=...highlight=
March 1956 Beetle convertible L41 Black

[ALLWAGONS]

Sorry for your loss! Keep her spirit alive! Do ALL the things she loved to do! It will bring you peace knowing you are doing what she loved to do!

Martin Serrano
allwagons
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Thanks to my Tesla driving neighbors, I feel more relaxed driving my SUBURBAN and old VW's.

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[jspbtown]

Sorry for your loss. Its terrible to lose anyone...for any reason. But it seems worse when they still had so much to offer.

I will offer you a prayer tonight.

[MsTaboo]

I will add my condolences and hope for strength to make it through these hard times. To have and to have loved is the best in life.
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[Jacks]

From a post on Reddit years ago. I hope it helps

Alright, here goes. I'm old. What that means is that I've survived (so far) and a lot of people I've known and loved did not. I've lost friends, best friends, acquaintances, co-workers, grandparents, mom, relatives, teachers, mentors, students, neighbors, and a host of other folks. I have no children, and I can't imagine the pain it must be to lose a child. But here's my two cents.

I wish I could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don't want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don't want it to "not matter". I don't want it to be something that just passes. My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love. So be it. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are a testament that I can love deeply and live deeply and be cut, or even gouged, and that I can heal and continue to live and continue to love. And the scar tissue is stronger than the original flesh ever was. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are only ugly to people who can't see.

As for grief, you'll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you're drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe it's some physical thing. Maybe it's a happy memory or a photograph. Maybe it's a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is float. Stay alive.

In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don't even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you'll find the waves are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out. But in between, you can breathe, you can function. You never know what's going to trigger the grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a cup of coffee. It can be just about anything...and the wave comes crashing. But in between waves, there is life.

Somewhere down the line, and it's different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or Christmas, or landing at O'Hare. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you'll come out.

Take it from an old guy. The waves never stop coming, and somehow you don't really want them to. But you learn that you'll survive them. And other waves will come. And you'll survive them too. If you're lucky, you'll have lots of scars from lots of loves. And lots of shipwrecks.
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[obus]

Thanks for that Jack.
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July 1959 Mango Standard Bus aka Obus L346 L347 https://www.thesamba.com/vw/forum/viewtopic.php?t=256592&highlight=
June 1973 Pumpkin Orange Thing aka Othing L30H
https://www.thesamba.com/vw/forum/viewtopic.php?t=711775&highlight=
1960 Paprika Red Karmann Ghia Convertible aka Schatze L452 built 5/20/60
https://www.thesamba.com/vw/forum/viewtopic.php?t=...highlight=
March 1956 Beetle convertible L41 Black

[Abscate]

I lost mom in 2023, amd Dad in 2018. Both were 93.

I see tha waves coming and actually am learning to swamp the tears with good memories. I guess that’s learning to ride the waves


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[derv]

Sorry to read this brother.
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Jack

[Heiferman]

A tuff thread to read.
It reminds us all of our mortality.
Cherish the good memories and the time you have on the orb.
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[Abscate]

We have lost three partners on the Bay Forum, the Vanagon Forum this summer.

I wish all of you love and strength to ride those waters on your journeys
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[obus]

Thanks everyone. I have been trying to keep busy with work, Family, Friends and VW's. When i am home its brutal. So damn hard....
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July 1959 Mango Standard Bus aka Obus L346 L347 https://www.thesamba.com/vw/forum/viewtopic.php?t=256592&highlight=
June 1973 Pumpkin Orange Thing aka Othing L30H
https://www.thesamba.com/vw/forum/viewtopic.php?t=711775&highlight=
1960 Paprika Red Karmann Ghia Convertible aka Schatze L452 built 5/20/60
https://www.thesamba.com/vw/forum/viewtopic.php?t=...highlight=
March 1956 Beetle convertible L41 Black

[LAGrunthaner]

Thinking of you oBus, keep busy as best you can. She would want that for you, especially friends and VW's.
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